I believe that there are different types of love, different dimensions of it and different strengths too. Therefore I also believe that it is possible to love two people depending on your capacity, time and strength that you have to follow through.
I think that people are made to love more than just one because they are given emotions and ability,
It's selfish to love only one person in your life. Others deserve that love too. So they also deserve to be shown.
There's a lot of if's ands and buts as to how you should love and I think that is nonsense too.
We are too prone to fall into a belief system that only allows for certain people or certain places and we become biased to that belief because it is drilled in us. Just as if we were to go to another person who believes differently and that belief becomes ours.
You may say that I am trying to win you over to my side about what I believe when it comes to love and romance. Well no I'm not if you believe that you should love one person all the time with all your heart instead of 2 and that belief is your own and not something that was branded in you from birth, well then congrats you are a strong person and stand firm in your beliefs.
Now back to love. I allow myself to feel this love for each individual and each one is different somewhat. One may have a strong personality and is a jerk but with good qualities and the other may be shy and have a little mean streak in the bed. But if those are things I am comfortable with I can love them wholeheartedly without reservation.
We love family differently than we love husbands. Sometimes we love mom's in a different way than we love dad or visa versa and sisters, cousins, aunts, etc.... and we feel the reason behind each love we have towards them is sound.
Now comes the pain of loving even if it's just one. I've learned that through acceptance I can begin to love more than one person with all my heart. The term "with all my heart" btw is clishea. It just means I love them a lot and with a lot comes a lot of action. Now the question is whether we have time to put into more than one or if we have the stamina to live up to it. Here comes all the snide comments.
Love is what we make of it. .will update on progress or lack of later.